Is Your Relationship Growing With You or Holding You Back Spiritually?

When I started waking up spiritually back in 2012, I didn’t know how much it would change my life. What I really didn’t know was how much it would change my relationship. Spiritual growth is beautiful but it can be lonely when the person you love the most isn’t growing with you.
I was on fire, diving deep into shadow work, astrology, ancestral healing, and understanding the energetic cycles that shape our lives. But Marcus? He wasn’t there. Not even close. And for a long time… That hurt more than I was willing to admit.

The Loneliness of Growing Alone in a Relationship

I don’t think people talk enough about how isolating it feels when one person starts evolving while the other stays asleep. I wasn’t just growing I was transforming. I was shedding old patterns, breaking generational cycles, and questioning everything I’d been taught.
But Marcus? He was still operating in the same space. Same mindset. Same habits. Same surface-level conversations. And I felt it. The gap between us was growing. We were in the same house… but living in different worlds. It wasn’t that Marcus was a bad partner.
He was kind, loving, and supportive in his own way. But spiritually?
I felt like I was walking this path alone. I remember nights where I would be up journaling, meditating, or crying through another layer of shadow work… while he was scrolling or watching TV. I was expanding. He was standing still. And that space between us? It felt like a void I didn’t know how to close.

Why Growing Apart Spiritually Feels So Painful

When you grow spiritually and your partner doesn’t, it creates a clash of energies.
I could feel it in small things:

• I wanted to talk about higher consciousness, but he was stuck in small talk.
• I was shifting old patterns, while he was still reacting from wounds I’d already healed.
• I craved depth, while he was comfortable with the surface.

And here’s the thing that nobody tells you, It’s not just frustrating it’s a turn-off.
I couldn’t connect with Marcus the same way anymore because we weren’t vibrating on the same level. It wasn’t about love I still loved him deeply. But when your soul starts resonating with higher frequencies and your partner isn’t meeting you there… it creates emotional dissonance. And that dissonance? It starts to feel like distance.

When I Knew Something Had to Change

We went through about two years where our relationship was rocky really rocky.
I didn’t want to give up on us. But I also knew that if Marcus didn’t start meeting me somewhere on this path… we weren’t going to make it. I remember telling him one night, “If you don’t match me if we don’t start growing together this relationship is going to dissolve.”
I didn’t say it to hurt him. I said it because I could feel it happening. And even though I was honest… I never tried to force him. I didn’t want Marcus to grow just to keep me. I wanted him to grow because his soul was ready. So I waited. Patiently. Painfully. And with more love than I thought I was capable of holding.

The Turning Point: When Astrology Opened the Door

The shift didn’t happen overnight. But you know what sparked it? Astrology. Of all things, astrology was what finally opened the door for Marcus. Astrology was something we could both connect to without pressure. It wasn’t about healing or spirituality it was about patterns and cycles. It gave us a way to understand life differently to see that everything wasn’t “just happening” to us. It was happening for us.

We started realizing:

• Every challenge was a lesson.
• Every delay was a test.
• Every discomfort was an invitation to grow.

Slowly, Marcus started to open up. We talked about his chart, his placements, and how his patterns showed up in his life. And somewhere in those conversations, something shifted. Marcus wasn’t just listening anymore. He was feeling it. He was starting to see himself.

When Your Growth Inspires Theirs

I’ll be honest we’re still not on the exact same level spiritually. And that’s okay. Marcus may not be as deep into the work as I am, but he’s growing. And now? He craves growth. It’s like he sees where I’m going, and instead of being intimidated, he’s inspired. He’s watching me embody this path, and it’s giving him a blueprint not to follow me, but to find his own way. And that? That changed everything.

Can You Grow Spiritually and Stay Together?

So… can you grow spiritually and still stay together? Yes, but only if the relationship transforms with you. Here’s the truth I’ve learned:

• You can’t force growth. Your partner has to want it for themselves.
• Love alone isn’t enough. You need energetic alignment.
• Patience is necessary but not forever. There comes a point where you have to protect your own evolution.

The relationship can work if:

• Your partner is willing to explore their own path.
• They can hold space for your growth without resistance.
• They’re open to transforming the relationship dynamic instead of clinging to the old one.

But if your partner refuses to grow… If they’re pulling you back into old patterns… If staying feels like shrinkage instead of expansion… That’s when love is no longer enough.

What Saved My Relationship with Marcus

What saved us wasn’t just love. It was alignment. Marcus didn’t have to walk my exact path he just had to be willing to walk his own. And that’s what kept us together. We gave each other space to grow individually while holding space for our relationship to evolve. We didn’t force it. We allowed it. And now? Our relationship feels lighter. It feels like we’re building something new instead of clinging to something that’s already gone.

If You’re at This Crossroads Right Now…

If you’re where I was standing at the edge of growth, wondering if your relationship can come with you. I see you. I know how heavy it feels. And I also know this, It doesn’t have to end. But it does have to transform. If you’re ready to break free from old relationship cycles and create space for aligned love, I created something that will help, The Loop Breaker: How to Exit Old Cycles and Anchor the New. It’s not just about relationships it’s about breaking patterns that keep you stuck in misaligned connections. → [Grab the Guide Now]

 Ready to See If Your Relationship is Still Aligned?

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